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Give it up for the big O, and I don't mean Oprah. Achieving an orgasm is like winning first prize. It is a goal most of us plan to achieve when we are having sex with our partners. The following are positions that will give you an orgasm to remember. Just as a side note, if you do not have an orgasm during sex, there is nothing wrong with you. You will not have an orgasm every time, so just enjoy and have fun.

Lotus Style - This tantric position is very similar to the good old missionary position, except it requires eye contact and body-to-body contact. Simply sit your lover down with his legs crossed. As you face him, straddle his legs and seductively lower yourself on his lap. Hold on girl, no penetration just yet. Slow your roll and wrap your legs around the side of his torso, so they're hugging his sexy bottom. Now it's all good, so hold each other's arms as he enters you. Rock steady back and forth together, increase your speed as you come closer to climaxing.

Lap Dance - Give a good lap dance and your partner will thank you for weeks, but if that lap dance takes a turn into hot passionate loving you will be crowned a true Queen. Wear your sexiest lingerie and play some seductive tunes. Use a tall-backed padded chair and then straddle him as you lean back. Tease and play as you slowly begin to extend your legs, one at a time, until your ankles are resting on his shoulders. Proceed with intercourse. You go girl!

Gone Fishin' - This move is one of a woman's favorites when done correctly. This position can curl the toes like no other. When your lover goes down on you and spends quality time on your vagina, it is a very intimate process. Make sure that you are communicating with your partner when something that they are doing is totally doing it for you. Also, guide him in the direction that you want him to go so that he gets you off just the way you like it.

Unison - This is great for a simultaneous orgasm. The key to this position is slowing down and enjoying each other. Take the time to kiss and caress each other during intercourse. Have him sit down in a low chair with his legs relaxed. Facing your man, then straddle him with your feet on the floor. Slowly lower yourself onto his penis. Slowly let just the tip of his penis enter you, and then lower yourself inch by inch until you're allowing him full entry.

Shower Power - They don't show sexy shower scenes in movies for nothing. Shower sex is one fine time. The water can actually bring extra power to the man's thrust. Stand directly under the showerhead, make sure the water is running, and you are standing where it hits the point of entry. Now lean forward, keeping your back straight and your hands on your thighs. Your partner should stand behind you, holding your waist as he enters you.

Butterfly - This is one sensual and sexy position. Everything has to be aligned between you and your partner. A great place for this is where you are the one lying down, and he can stand in front of you. Think kitchen table, counter, desk, or just use your imagination. You have to be able to lift your legs and rest them on his shoulders. Tilt yourself upward so that your pelvis is angled up toward him, and your crotches meet and greet in a delightful way.

Charming Courtesan Tip: Flirt a few times a day!

Flirting is good for your soul and your swagger. It is not only fun, but it makes you feel sassy. It is a fabulous way to let out your feminine power. It is also a wonderful way to practice the art of seduction. Make sure you make eye contact with that sexy person walking your way. Give them a wink and a smile, you never know what it could lead to! It is all in name of flirty foreplay.

Still trying to come up with the purrfect Independence Day cocktail?

Try either one of these  sexy All- American Cocktails, The Curly and Turk from The Tippler in NYC or the Patriotic Punch from XIV Sessions in LA. Two aphrodisiacs that will get your 4th poppin'! These cocktails are also great for the rest of the summer. L'chaim!

The Curly and the Turk 
1.5 G'vine Gin
.75 blue curacao
.75 chili hibiscus syrup*
1 lemon
2 dashes Moroccan bitters

To make cocktail: pour chile-hibiscus syrup into the bottom of a tall glass, then fill 2/3 full with crushed ice. Fill a cocktail shaker with ice, add gin, curacao, bitters, and lemon juice. Shake.

Slowly strain gin and curacao mixture over the ice, so that it floats over syrup. Top with additional crushed ice and insert two tall straws directly in the middle of the glass to replicate popsicle sticks.

Patriotic Punch
2 oz grey goose cherry noir
1.5 oz watermelon purée
Shaken vigorously until frothy
Pour over ice, fill with soda
Garnish with watermelon chunk and sprig of fresh mint

I am a huge Francophile, so I love things that have a French flair. I was in food heaven when I was invited to a Cheeses of France pop up store in New York City by Aliah PR. Delicious cheeses and wines were served for foodies to enjoy cheese in different varieties. My favorite nosh that was served up was the macaroni and cheese made with a slew of different cheeses.

Cheese is known for being a luxury and delicacy in Europe making it an aphrodisiac. The French know how to make a delicious and sexy cheese so next time you are looking for a good cheese, go French.

While it would be great to fly off to France, you are able to experience your love of French cheese in the states. The pop up store takes place a few times a year around the county as well as other tasting events throughout the year. If you check out the Cheeses of France website, you can find out about events and where to buy your favorite French cheese.

One of my favorite cheeses at the event was Camembert.  A cheese so creamy and delicious, it is known for being a famous soft French cheese. I scored this Grilled Camembert Sandwich recipe from the Cheeses of France website. Everyone loves a grilled cheese, but imagine a camembert grilled cheese with an aphrodisiac tomato soup. How oh la la, a foodgasm in the making.

Whip this up for your special someone, even if that person is you. Joie de vivre!

Grilled Camembert Sandwiches w/ Tomato Soup

Ingredients:

10 ¼" slices bread 
1/4 cup olive oil 
2 tsp freshly cracked black pepper 
16 ¼" slices Camembert
1/2 cup extra virgin olive oil,
1 sliced onion
2 crushed cloves garlic 
2 1/2 pounds cored and chopped tomatoes
12 fresh basil leaves
salt and cayenne pepper 

Directions: 

Sandwiches: Heat olive oil and cracked pepper over low heat. Turn off and let infuse for 10 minutes. Place sliced cheese on half of the bread slices (making sure the cheese comes to the edge of the crust). Place top slice on each sandwich and put them together so they are crust to crust. Cover all the sandwiches with a layer of plastic wrap and place a medium cutting board on top of sandwiches to gently weigh them down for 15 minutes. Using a pastry brush, thoroughly brush surface of both faces of the sandwich with the pepper oil. Preheat a Panini griddle on low or a medium sauté pan over low heat. Wipe surface with a little oil. Place sandwiches in griddle or pan and cook until slightly browned, 2 - 3 minutes per side until cheese is melted. Keep heat low so bread doesn't burn.

Tomato soup: Combine olive oil, onion and garlic in medium saucepan and sweat together for about 20 minutes, or until the onions are soft and translucent. Add tomatoes and cook another 15 minutes. Add stock and basil leaves and bring to a simmer. Cook gently for 20 minutes.

Place soup into a large bowl through a fine strainer or food mill, to remove seeds, skins and basil. Salt and pepper (cayenne) to taste. Serve tomato soup hot with warm sandwiches. Drizzle extra virgin oil over the soup along with a couple small basil tops.

Serves 5

You know what’s hot: sexy and sensual drinks. This quick and easy aphrodisiac cocktail will get your senses tingling.  Violets are a proper and well behaved aphrodisiac that are great on the taste buds. Then of course champagne is always a sexy addition to any night of seduction or simply for addition pleasure. Cheers!

Blackberry Violet Cocktail

Ingredients:

7 ounces champagne

1/4 ounce blackberry syrup

1/4 ounce violet syrup

Directions:

Fill glass with champagne.

Slowly stir syrup into glass.

Garnish with a violet petal.

This recipe is a lovely little aphrodisiac that you can use for Valentine’s Day and beyond.

The quick and easy recipe for Red Chile Pecans is packed with aphrodisiac power. As I have mentioned before nuts are aphrodisiacs especially pecans. They contain l-arginine, an amino acid that's lessens impotence, plus they are high in protein. As for red chile peppers, they raise the heart rate which increases pleasure. Peppers also release endorphins in the body. Oh la la!

The pecans are purrfect to add to your food play with your lover, go get 'em!

RED HOT CHILE PECANS

• 1/2 cup extra-virgin olive oil
• 1/2 pound raw whole pecans
• 1 fresh red chile, split

DIRECTIONS:

Preheat the oven to 375 degrees F.

Heat the oil in a large ovenproof skillet over medium fire for about 2 to 4 minutes. Add the chile and allow it to infuse into the oil for 1 minute. Add the pecans, cook and stir for 2 minutes until the pecans are coated in the chili oil. Put the pan and pecans in the oven and roast for about 15 minutes until the nuts are toasty and fragrant. Remove the pecans from the oil to a plate lined with paper towels and sprinkle with sea salt.

Fall is in the air which means it’s time for me to start talking about one of my favorite foods, pumpkin.

Did you know that pumpkin is an aphrodisiac? Well, let me entertain you…

This pumpkin butter is sure to kick start some serious flirting or something more frisky!  The scents of pumpkin and cinnamon are known for arousing men, as well as women. They are two aphrodisiacs that work well together that create magic on a fork. Use on your favorite breads, biscuits, muffins or last but not least use on your lover. A little forkplay adds to foreplay which is a very good thing!

Passion Pumpkin Butter

Ingredients:

4 cups pumpkin puree, or two 15-oz. cans pumpkin

1-1/4 cups pure maple syrup

½ cup apple juice

2 Tbsp. lemon juice

2 tsp. ground ginger

½ tsp. ground cinnamon

½ tsp. ground nutmeg

¼ tsp.  kosher salt

Directions:

1. In 5-quart Dutch oven combine all ingredients. Bring to boiling; reduce heat. Cook, uncovered, over medium heat, stirring frequently, 25 minutes or until thick. (If mixture spatters, reduce heat to medium-low). Remove from heat; cool.

2. Ladle into jars or freezer containers, leaving 1/2-inch space. Cover; store in refrigerator up to 1 week or freezer up to 6 months. Makes 4-1/2 cups of pumpkin butter.

The Spider is a good position to whip out when you have been feeling like you have not been able to spend quality time in the bedroom, due to the fact that it allows for the two of you to slow down your pace and truly communicate non-verbally.

This is how you get down to business:

Sit back while supporting yourself with your hands or elbows, then let your boo come toward you as they sitting back in a similar way. Take the time to really feel each other and let it go nice, easy, and slow. Make sure to keep the eye contact going. This makes for a fabulous tantric position.  Women tend to feel a more intense stimulation in this position.

High five to that!

The courtesan that cooks knows that a slammin’ side dish is a key ingredient to making a fabulous and luscious meal.

Whipping up a side of garlic mashed potatoes is always a great way to go. Are you surprised that potatoes are considered an aphrodisiac? Back in the days of Shakespeare, the potato was known as the “apple of love”. Then there is garlic that has always been thought of as a potent aphrodisiac that ignites a person’s passion. I can vouch for that, since I am a huge fan of cooking with garlic!

Next time you need to make a simple sexy side dish, go for the garlic mashed potatoes.

GARLIC MASHED POTATOES

Ingredients:

1 medium head of  garlic

1  tablespoon of olive oil

2 pounds russet potatoes, peeled and quartered

4 tablespoons butter, softened

1/2 cup of milk

Sea salt and pepper to taste

DIRECTIONS:

Preheat oven to 350 degrees F (175 degrees C).

Drizzle garlic with olive oil, then wrap in aluminum foil. Bake the garlic in a preheated oven for 1 hour. Smell the aroma!

Bring a large pot of sea salted water to a boil. Add potatoes, and cook until tender, about 15 minutes. Drain, cool and chop. Stir in butter, milk, salt and pepper.

Remove the garlic from the oven, and cut in half. Squeeze the softened cloves into the potatoes. Blend potatoes with an electric mixer until desired consistency is achieved. Serve up and savor the flavor.

Shout out to the single ladies, pull up a glass of wine, let's keep it real.

Dating can be hit or miss depending on how you look at it. As you are partaking in the dating game, have to remember to keep your head up and heart open. There are three little things to keep in mind that can make dating a whole new experience for you.

1 Stay focused. Make sure you clear about what you want when you are dating, so that you work toward what your heart desires. Are you looking to just have a good time or is your goal to find a life partner to settle down with. When you remember your dating goal you know which dates you should or shouldn’t go on.

2 Have fun. Sometimes dating is frustrating, especially when you go on a few back to back dates that do now work out. To get to the love of your life, remember that you will have to kiss a few frogs. Start going dates not expecting that it is “the one”.  Go out to meet new people and to stay open to opportunities in love. That way if it doesn’t turn out the way that you want you will not be disappointed. Instead you will have a fun dating stories to tell your girlfriends. You have to be in it to win it.

3. Stay calm. waiting for your date to call. If you go on a date and you have a fabulous time, do not drive yourself crazy wondering when he is going to call you for date number two. Stop waiting by the phone or spending every minute thinking that he is never going to call you. The call may come or not come. What is important to remember is that you can’t hurry love; learn to go with the flow.